Service, Love

Okay, I was DEAD tired yesterday, haha. But service was still good.

And God is so good, and Im so amazed, haha..the day before I blogged something about love, and just yesterday, Ps Kong talked about love and marriage. How cool is that? haha. Not bad, right flow, haha. :P

Seriously, I never knew what Ps was gonna preach on yesterday, haha. Thats the beautiful things of walking with God, everything just falls together. =)

What is love?

In the shortest phrase I can think of, I can put it like this:

To love is to serve. Period.

Thats the most simplest way I can phrase it. Haha. Not only to accept people's differences, but really to live for his vision. The man has to be responsible, give vision and right direction. And the woman has to submit to her man's vision.

Even if the man has a WRONG vision, but you made a commitment to give him your life, then you gotta be prepared. Harvest Times article quotes:

Entering a relationship with someone is to accept him for who he is, EVEN IF HE DOESNT CHANGE!

We always think the word submit is so strong, but really, if you truly love someone, then wouldnt it be easy to submit to that person? Just like how we so easily and readily submit to God's direction and purpose in our life, its the same with relationships.

For girls,

Come on, dont be dumb, following someone with the wrong vision just for the sake of being with him. Dont cheapen yourselves just for the sake of a guy. Yes love is accepting people's differences, but you have to draw a line for yourselves.

"Ohhh, but I cant resist, I wanna be with him."

The moment you cant say no, you're finished. Being in a relationship doesnt equate you to losing your humanity. Thats just so lame. You're a woman for goodness sake, not some robot on autopilot!

This is LOVE, hello! Not tolerance! When to draw the line, you ask? When the guy has made a decision not to change and isnt putting in any effort! "Ohhhh, but I can change his decision". You cant my friends. Instead of trying to make him change, why not fast and pray?

And please, dont go for a guy just because he's handsome. I dont think Jesus was visually appealing when he was nailed on the cross, with all the blood and all, but it was His love, His character, that eventually drew us to him.

There's a saying that an attractive person normally has a bigger ego and pride, I dont really know to what extent that is true haha. But if the guy is good looking AND spiritual, thank God for blessing you. Always have an attitude of gratitude.

And for guys,

If you know your relationship with God is not strong, then dont be so stupid as to make commitments you cant keep.

If you cant even keep your promises to God, how are you gonna keep your promises to your girl? If you cant even read the bible everyday, how are you going to spend time with your girl? The problem here is not your spirituality, even though its VERY important, the issue here is really about poor time management. (In this case)

The worse thing is falling in love with girls, JUST because they are pretty, nothing else! Then you're really defeating the purpose. It only reflects one thing, you ONLY worship God when you experience encounters and miracles!

If your true love is pretty, thank God for it. Its His blessing. Im not saying you shouldnt go for people who are pretty, but please check her character first before you make any stupid decisions.

Its as simple as that. Oh, then what happens when you're old and ugly? "Ohhh, wa um zai oh..who will love an ugly old fag like me? I see my lao po so wrinkled, I also buay tahan, I think I go fellowship with the animals in the zoo ba.."

Come on! Wake up your idea! LOL.

When you're down, you shut yourself up from everybody else! You become so emo that you're ignorant of the feelings of the people around you. All you think of is yourself. When you're down, you dont worship God, you dont even talk to Him, you dont even SHARE your problems with him! You just wanna be alone and solve your own problems.

How many times, your girl is worried for you? How many times your girl wants to find out what is going on in your life, but you choose to let your pride create a wall between you and your girl? You get misunderstood, you have miscommunication.

Your girl really wants to help, thats why she's there, even sometimes when she doesnt know that one day you'll leave her, but yet she's committed to see you through your darkest days. How can you be so ungrateful and not treasure people like them?

God is there, worried for you, wanting to help you. But your pride prevents a breakthrough in your life! If you cant even comfort yourself when you're down, how are you going to comfort other people? Be a man, dont be a wimp!

Okay, Im done. Haha..Im out of ideas. Going to school later to do my programming, I cant do work or study in an environment like this haha.

And to everyone out there, please smile for goodness sake! Dont look like bao jing tian all the time! LOL. Here's Androne's tip to getting out of depression in 24-hours:

SMILE! =)

I make an attempt to smile all the time. And to me, smiling is an art. To smile when you're feeling down is really true strength and its not easy. It is to put God before yourself. You look at yourself, you dont feel too good, but you change your focus to God, you submit to His joy, His love, His purpose, you find it easy to smile.

Haha, sermon by Pst Tan, on redirecting your focus.

Oh yes, dont ask me how much Ive collected during CNY cus I havent counted my angpaos yet =/ haha.