Loving the person or loving love?

One question is popular among couples today:
How can a person love someone (in a relationship), and then leave for another person?

Aside from having meets un-met,

The answer is simple:

It's because he/she has never really loved the person.

What is love?
Love is the desire to benefit others at the expense of self.

While there are people who truly love someone,
There are also those who are just simply in love with love.

They seek the thrill of courtship, the romance and the excitement, which is not wrong. But it becomes a liability when one seeks after those things, MORE, than the person himself/herself.

A person who truly loves someone can't live without him/her.

On the contrary...

A person who truly loves love more than the person, can't live without love.
The moment you stop receiving gifts, you stop loving.
The moment you stop receiving notes, you stop loving.
The moment he/she has a career and have lesser time with you, you stop loving.
The moment he/she stops loving you, you stop loving!

All of us need love, but very often, one needs to be loved in order to love.
How can one give something he/she has not received?

God promises that all of us will be filled when we enter His presence.
Because one experiences the agape love of God, he/she is then able to express it to others.

There will come a point in time, when we will either be lying on a bed, motionless, speechless, expressless, sick, etc. At the end of our lives, when we can afford to do nothing, say nothing, is the person beside you enough for you?

My grandpa passed away not long ago, thank God he's with the Lord right now, probably fellowshiping with billions of other saints, but seeing my grandparents' love extend even after death...

It deeply moves me.

And yet, in society today, people just change lovers like changing underwear.
Its time to stop buying new underwear, stop being lazy and WASH THEM INSTEAD when theyre dirty!

How can you say you are committed to someone if you're just plain lazy to work things out?
You run away from problems and even so if you're a man!

If your parents, who may be of another religion, can stay committed, how much more you should!
You're experience the youth of your life, the most exciting moments, while they, on the other hand, are working hard to support you and themselves, and yet, they can still be as one!

Yes, we all have our expectations, but true love loves no matter what!
If God can die for you even before you were born, how much more should you love and cherish one another! You who can see each other, experience each other, touch each other, hear each other's voices!

HE is our example. Not some TV drama.

Its good to have great imagination, but dont be insane.

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting a different result.

On exceptional cases, yes, it may be wiser to separate, but still, ask yourself,

Do you love him?
Do you love her?

Or do you love love more than the person?

Put it this way, Jesus is not 'obsessed' with love.
He doesnt come back to earth once a year, every christmas, to go to cross and say, "Ohhh how I love the people!", goes up and nail Himself over and over again!!! That would be ridiculous! Yet some people are like that...

What or who, you cannot live without?
Are you always talking about the person, or are you always talking about your drinks, your new accessories, your wishlists, your sex life?

That is where your heart lies.

"For out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks..."

Just by the way one talks, you know what is in his/her heart.