Boyfriends and Men, Girlfriends and Women

In today's society, they say you become a man when you get attached. So you see the boyfriends sending their girl home, buying gifts for them, speaking encouraging words, etc.

But to God,

You become a man FIRST then you get attached.

You should be a responsible man right from the beginning. Even if its just a classmate, offer her a seat, offer to buy a drink, offer to carry her things, if its late at night ensures she goes back safely. You dont have to go up to her house, at least to her lift to make sure no one follows her in.

Especially if you're a girl and you're single, dont go: "Why send me home? You my boyfriend meh?"
The least you could do is talk nicely, have some feminity, and not look like an orang utan scratching your armpit.

If you're going to wait for a boyfriend FIRST, only then you open up to people who are there to exercise their manhood, then you'll just get what you want...a BOY friend. Someone who's immature, undecisive, uncommitted, impulsive and irresponsible. Of course if you dont trust the person, thats another issue. But if you know the person, then you seriously have a glitch in your feminity.

Often when people get together before developing their people skills, its often too late and hard. The pressures of commitment overwhelms them, not just the guys, but the girls as well.

They complain how they found the wrong guy or the wrong girl.

Relationships are never about finding the right person, its about BEing the right person!

There will never be a right person, or the perfect knight in shining armour, or the glamourous princess.

The purpose of being in a relationship in the first place is to build THAT relationship, that trust, openness and closeness. Not for you to only then, START developing yourself!

And women should be emotionally ready. She is the helper, the supporter of the man, very often, emotionally as guys tend to be more task-oriented.

Some women get into a relationship knowing the guy has some serious issues and yet for months and years they tolerate it. A relationship is for you to LOVE, not tolerate!

Learn to communicate. Learn to express yourself.
Shouting vulgarities just simply show your lack of vocabulary and creativity!

If you wanna develop tolerance, just join some stress/anger management classes!

Why follow a guy if you dont support his vision?
Why follow a guy if you dont agree with him?
Why follow a guy if you dont believes in what he believes in?

Is love so blind to you that you can just cross the road and get knocked down by a car?

Just because you love someone, it doesnt mean you have to agree with his lifestyle.

Yes, we all have flaws. You dont need perfection to agree with the same thing right? You dont need perfection to have the same vision, same beliefs and thinking.

A chair and a table can still agree to be called furniture.
The bus and the MRT can agree to be called public transport.

If you want your relationship to be a bus driving on an MRT track, then you just look stupid!
Why not be a Mercedez and a BMW driving along the same road?

Love is the desire to benefit others at the expense of self,
A desire to serve and to sacrifice and yet be happy doing it.

It seeks to make the person happy, even if it makes you unhappy.

If you're the happy one but your partner is not, then you seriously need to knock yourself in the head and start waking up your idea...

You two are supposed to be connected.

How can you not feel how the other party is feeling? Yes, it also includes falling in love with someone when you're single. You know you like the person, yet after doing your best, the person has chosen someone else.

You see him/her happy beside their partner. If you truly loved the person, should you be feeling how he/she is feeling? Happy. Again..if its a wrong guy, thats a different story. But if he/she is a nice guy, whom your 'love' has chosen. Why are you depressed and the latter, happy?

It just shows that you're not connected in the first place.
You only feel YOUR feelings, not the other person's!

Its time to stop finding a BOYfriend or GIRLfriend,
Start finding a real man and a real woman!

How you treat people, is how you treat God.