The Purpose Of Relationships 2
The purpose of a relationship, is not to change someone.
But to enjoy someone. Just having the person by your side, is enough. Being together, doing things together, etc. Its about togetherness.
Then you got to ask yourself, once you have him/her, is him/her enough for you?
Now, before you even answer that question, God always comes first, so ask yourself, is God alone, enough for you? Have you come to that stage of maturity yet?
Because unless God alone is enough for you, you will always be in want.
You'll always want more. You'll never be satisfied.
And also, unless God alone is enough, you cant handle breakups.
You cant handle it when you realized you've fallen for the wrong person and you find it hard to say, "Its okay, I can live without that person. At most, Ill find a better one next time." You just cant say no!
What does "enough" mean? Enough.
So when you say, "God alone is enough", what does it mean?
Very simple. You can live without anything else!
We all hope for a change in a person, but what does it mean to love someone?
Ps mentioned before, true love is accepting someone fully, and supporting him/her, even if he/she doesnt change!
Its never about finding the right person,
But BEING the right person.
Its never about who YOU end up with,
But its about who THAT PERSON ends up with!
But nonetheless, we have faith that in time, people will change.
BUT...thats got to depend on the level of your relationship with God.
Do you pray together?
Do you do quiet time together?
Do you fast together in agreement?
Do you serve God together?
Do you worship together? Cry and kneel down in the presence of God together?
The place of agreement is the place of power.
The place of disunity is the place of POWERLESSNESS.
If there's no unity in your relationship, it WILL be POWERLESS!
"In a relationship" is not just a status, its a lifelong decision to forsake all your dreams and your aspirations, to pursue each other's dreams!
Whats the point of coming together, when still cling on to your own dreams and aspirations?
Ive learnt in life, that relationships follow a hierarchy:
Acquaintances - You know the person by name, how he/she looks like.
Friends - You get along pretty well.
Companions - You start to hang out together and he/she becomes your 'buddy'.
Good/Best friends - You become open to share your problems with him/her.
Life partner - You make a commitment to forsake all (your dreams, your desires, your ambitions, even your FRIENDS), and cling ONLY to him/her. Does it mean you no longer have friends? Of course not, but his friend is your friend, her friend is your friend. He/she becomes the first person you turn to. Everything becomes mutual. If you two cant get along, forget it. You totally miss out on the point and you'll end up living a lonely, miserable life.
A relationship is supposed to make you happier and enlarge your faith and character, not the other way round! Thats not a relationship, thats a CURSE! lol.
God is not a God of backwardness, everything He does is always from glory to glory, from strength to strength. Walking with God is always progressive! Thats how it should be for your relationships as well. And not always come to a point where you're always stuck.
Many people jump from acquaintances/friends, to life partners, end up what happen? When their relationship breaks, they fall back to their PREVIOUS LEVEL of relationship, which is acquaintances or friends, or whatever it is. Because you two were never close friends to begin with!
Some were worse, from strangers, you become partners. When it breaks, you fall back to your previous level, which is "Stranger". Thats why most people after a break up, they totally abandon each other and find it hard to be close friends!!! There's a sense of awkwardness.
You never take time to build that relationship, you never take time to invest into each other.
If you fail to plan, you plan to fail!
Getting along is the most basic key.
Then acceptance and support of vision.
Then mutuality - things you do and agree on together, even hanging out with their friends. No point if only one person sacrifices.
We all know Christ died for us.
He made the first move.
What do we do now to obtain that relationship?
We put Him first, we support His vision, we give and we offer our sacrifice of praise. We turn to Him, we spend time with Him. We abandon all and cling to Him.
Same with your relationships.
How you treat people is how you treat God.
Make things right with God FIRST.
Remember the priority list?
1. God
2. Family
3. Church
4. Ministry
If "1" doesnt work, "2" + "3" + "4" wont work.
If "1" + "2" doesnt work, "3" + "4" wont work.
If "1" + "2" + "3" doesnt work, "4" wont work.
Dont live 2010, the same way you lived 2009.
You can never put new wine into old wineskins.
But to enjoy someone. Just having the person by your side, is enough. Being together, doing things together, etc. Its about togetherness.
Then you got to ask yourself, once you have him/her, is him/her enough for you?
Now, before you even answer that question, God always comes first, so ask yourself, is God alone, enough for you? Have you come to that stage of maturity yet?
Because unless God alone is enough for you, you will always be in want.
You'll always want more. You'll never be satisfied.
And also, unless God alone is enough, you cant handle breakups.
You cant handle it when you realized you've fallen for the wrong person and you find it hard to say, "Its okay, I can live without that person. At most, Ill find a better one next time." You just cant say no!
What does "enough" mean? Enough.
So when you say, "God alone is enough", what does it mean?
Very simple. You can live without anything else!
We all hope for a change in a person, but what does it mean to love someone?
Ps mentioned before, true love is accepting someone fully, and supporting him/her, even if he/she doesnt change!
Its never about finding the right person,
But BEING the right person.
Its never about who YOU end up with,
But its about who THAT PERSON ends up with!
But nonetheless, we have faith that in time, people will change.
BUT...thats got to depend on the level of your relationship with God.
Do you pray together?
Do you do quiet time together?
Do you fast together in agreement?
Do you serve God together?
Do you worship together? Cry and kneel down in the presence of God together?
The place of agreement is the place of power.
The place of disunity is the place of POWERLESSNESS.
If there's no unity in your relationship, it WILL be POWERLESS!
"In a relationship" is not just a status, its a lifelong decision to forsake all your dreams and your aspirations, to pursue each other's dreams!
Whats the point of coming together, when still cling on to your own dreams and aspirations?
Ive learnt in life, that relationships follow a hierarchy:
Acquaintances - You know the person by name, how he/she looks like.
Friends - You get along pretty well.
Companions - You start to hang out together and he/she becomes your 'buddy'.
Good/Best friends - You become open to share your problems with him/her.
Life partner - You make a commitment to forsake all (your dreams, your desires, your ambitions, even your FRIENDS), and cling ONLY to him/her. Does it mean you no longer have friends? Of course not, but his friend is your friend, her friend is your friend. He/she becomes the first person you turn to. Everything becomes mutual. If you two cant get along, forget it. You totally miss out on the point and you'll end up living a lonely, miserable life.
A relationship is supposed to make you happier and enlarge your faith and character, not the other way round! Thats not a relationship, thats a CURSE! lol.
God is not a God of backwardness, everything He does is always from glory to glory, from strength to strength. Walking with God is always progressive! Thats how it should be for your relationships as well. And not always come to a point where you're always stuck.
Many people jump from acquaintances/friends, to life partners, end up what happen? When their relationship breaks, they fall back to their PREVIOUS LEVEL of relationship, which is acquaintances or friends, or whatever it is. Because you two were never close friends to begin with!
Some were worse, from strangers, you become partners. When it breaks, you fall back to your previous level, which is "Stranger". Thats why most people after a break up, they totally abandon each other and find it hard to be close friends!!! There's a sense of awkwardness.
You never take time to build that relationship, you never take time to invest into each other.
If you fail to plan, you plan to fail!
Getting along is the most basic key.
Then acceptance and support of vision.
Then mutuality - things you do and agree on together, even hanging out with their friends. No point if only one person sacrifices.
We all know Christ died for us.
He made the first move.
What do we do now to obtain that relationship?
We put Him first, we support His vision, we give and we offer our sacrifice of praise. We turn to Him, we spend time with Him. We abandon all and cling to Him.
Same with your relationships.
How you treat people is how you treat God.
Make things right with God FIRST.
Remember the priority list?
1. God
2. Family
3. Church
4. Ministry
If "1" doesnt work, "2" + "3" + "4" wont work.
If "1" + "2" doesnt work, "3" + "4" wont work.
If "1" + "2" + "3" doesnt work, "4" wont work.
Dont live 2010, the same way you lived 2009.
You can never put new wine into old wineskins.
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